Let’s not sugarcoat this: Having RA sucks. Your life changes, it’s so inevitable it should be fact. Your life will change in areas you will not anticipate.
RA will change the way you work, IF you are able to work. It will change your social life, mostly reducing it and at certain times diminishing it all together. It will change your relationship with your loved one, frankly you will be a different person they have fallen in love with. This is caused by RA changing your personality; you will go through periods of depression, have a less positive outlook on life and at times you will feel very lonely because nobody understands your physical and emotional pain.
RA will change your day-to-day life: from your sleeping pattern to your morning routine, from your hobbies to preparing and eating your meals, from visits to the hospital to hanging out with your best friends, from doing shopping to going on holiday, from exercising to relaxing, from deciding to start a family to raising your children. You will grieve over your old life and will have to learn to lead a new one.
Saying that RA sucks is a huge understatement, but here’s the good news: everyone can do it. RA will help you figure out who’s really important in your life. RA will help you figure out what’s important in your life. RA will help you to not sweat the small stuff. RA will help appreciate what you have, who you are with and what you CAN do. It’s the hardest thing you will do and, at the same time, the most rewarding.
It gave me the best son in the world and a deeper love for the best wife in the world. RA made me reach a place where I don’t want to return to my pre-RA life. Despite the pain, fatigue and discomfort, I’m happier with my life now.
Thank you for your time, take care of yourself and keep passing the open windows.