Sweet Goodbyes

Yesterday Bookkid (my son) and I were playing with his blocks. After having built yet another tower, he turned the block container upside down, fetched his drum sticks and started drumming. He told me we were going to sing a song, you see as any three year old he does not ask much, but he sure tries to order everyone around a lot. Obviously he picked his favourite song of the moment, ‘Sweet Goodbyes’. I wish you could hear him sing this song, because it melts my heart and creates one of those incredible moments when I forget I have RA.

Boekgirl (my wife, this is her twitter alias) and I love music and have managed to pass this passion on to Bookkid. We put on music we enjoy and Bookkid enjoys listening to it too. Since he was a baby I sang a song to him before he goes to sleep. Besides nursery rhymes like ‘Baabaa black sheep’ and twinkle twinkle little star’, I would sing ‘love me tender’ and ‘wonderful tonight’ after which he would often fall asleep. As a parent with RA, music is a great tool to connect with your child. Whether you play music or sing a long with or without Singstar on the Playstation, physically it is not taxing. And sometimes, RA-permitting, we get our feet on the floor and ‘Shake it like a tail feather’ to Ray Charles.

‘Sweet goodbyes’ is the latest and final release of the Dutch band Krezip. They reached world fame in Holland in 2000 with their single ‘I would stay’ and have not looked back. Sadly they decided to call it a day and the band gave their final performance two months ago. Krezip created their own great sound, powered by the amazing voice of Jacqueline Govaert. Her performance in their slower songs gives me goosebumps and none more so than with ‘Sweet goodbyes’.

It is a song that tells the tale of a difficult change in a person’s life and that person is consoled by the performer. It would be a perfect sound track for Daily Strength, because the comfort and warmth conveyed in ‘Sweet goodbyes’ is offered by my friends and all the other members on DS. In fact this applies to all friends and family who supported and helped me in dealing with RA. But even though Krezip released this song last year and found the right words for it, I don’t believe they were the first to do so.

Boekgirl has been singing this song to me since I was diagnosed with RA. She has done this by being there for me every single step of the way, supporting me through the good, the bad and the very bad. She’s had to deal with the fact of becoming the breadwinner of the household, while running it as well. She’s had the vision and determination to start her own business, successfully, while consoling me on not being able to work the way I was used. And besides being a great mother, she is my rock. Without her there would not have been dadwithra.com. Thank you Boekgirl, I love you.

Watch and listen to ‘Sweet goodbyes’, it’s a live version, so the sound quality could be a bit better:

Can’t sleep ’cause everything’s changing
You don’t want to leave things behind
Can’t breath ’cause too many things going on going wrong in your life

Tears in your eyes
Sweet goodbyes
I know how you feel right now
Losing dreams you’ve come to care about
I know what you need right now
You need to come on home so I can hold you tight
Get you through the night
I’ll Get you through the night

Wake up the sun’s shining bright lets go out of bed into the light
Shape up we won’t forget still there’s lots of love left to hold tight

Tears in your eyes
Sweet goodbyes
I know how you feel right now
Losing dreams you’ve come to care about
I know what you need right now
You need to come on home so I can hold you tight
Get you through the night

Everything I love between us will get us through the night
All the things we lost will teach us see
The pretty things in life
All the places that we’ve been to
The people we relate to
All the love that we give in to

Blow the tears from our eyes
Sweet goodbyes
I know how you feel right now
Losing dreams you’ve come to care about
I know what you need right now
You need to come on home so I can hold you tight
I know how you feel right now
Losing dreams you’ve come to care about
I know what you need right now
You need to come on home so I can hold you tight
I’ll get you through the night

Thank you for your time, take care of yourself and remember to keep passing the open windows.

© Ferhaan Kajee, September 2009

Published in: on September 2, 2009 at 10:31 am  Comments (1)  

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  1. What a beautiful song, thank you for sharing.

    I am really enjoying your posts. It’s really special to hear about your life as a father. I hope to be there myself sometime in the near future.

    You are surrounded by a lovely family. Thanks for allowing us a peek inside.


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